Letting Go Your Love

Letting go is hardest when a woman does not feel she was fully loved. Esther, a nurse at a hospital in Ikeja disclosed: I almost died when he dumped me. Olu was my partner for four good years. I refused to accept the situation was over between us. I acted as if he was still around, very much in my life. We were live in lovers. I had invested so much in the relationship. Eventually, I mourned the end of the relationship. My friend were sympathetic and very supportive. About a year after, we met at a friends party and thank God I discovered that I did not have any feeling for him again.
Leaving when we believed we were never loved is difficult but we really have to when the other partner rejects us. I had to leave my partner; he was a womanizer that couldn't care about my feelings. I wasn't ready to settle for any man that rejected me through his actions and behaviours. It was a difficult and painful decision. I loved him but I just couldn't stay. I left Lagos to avoid the temptation of visiting him says pelume, a medical practitioner.

For mimi, a lawyer, he was everything to me. We were already planning for our wedding when my partner dumped me for one of his colleagues. I believed I couldn't live without him. I cried for days and waited for his phone calls for weeks. Eventually, he called but the call came too late I no longer wanted to hear about his agony either about having me in his life or about not having me in his life. It was over.

No one let go off a relationship without first experiencing grief and through the stages feeling helpless, denied, rejected used, humiliated.

Why exactly do I want a man who does not want me anymore? Says Bimpe, an accountant, my painful past helped me to grow fast, showed me what I wanted in a man and taught me which mistakers never to make. We tried our best to make our relationship work we became an on-again, off again couple.  We broke our engagement but we are still friends trying to figure it out. But I know in my heart that steve my partner for eight years is going to be in my life forever. We understand why it can work and why it can't work. There is no resentment.

Women who were loved in a relationship find the grieving process quicker.

My husband was warmhearted, kind and loving he was all I wanted in a man. Unfortunately, he died four years after we got married leaving me with   our son. After the moving period I had to let go. His memories are treasures in my heart but I know I had to marry someone as sweet as my late husband to make life meaningful. I met a nice husband with two children, even though things are a bit different when they are not your children. But I fell in love with his children. We are one big family' says Emma, a teacher.

In the past I wouldn't let go, I held on longest to the very men and relationships that were the most deeply disappointing says Kasarat , an Advert Executive. Then he had to be who I wanted him to be. Now, I just tell my self, “it didn't work between us” I had to leave my partner I adored  for six good years. I knew something was terribly wrong. I was increased as money got tighter. Eventually, I figured out what was wrong and that it was not the kind of issue we could ever be able to work out.

For Faramade, an accountant, he dumped me for his job. He was an international journalist I met during my vacation in London. We had a beautiful relationship. Our communication was perfect. I wasn't getting younger but he wasn't ready to settle. He choose his job I choose my security by getting married to someone else I never loved but needed. I really hated to let go. We bumped into each other on the street about a year ago; we realized our feelings for each other had not changed. We hogged long enough for very good friends.